As a business owner, there is just so much happening in our lives apart from the professional aspect. We have our family and friends as well as ourselves to take care of. It is understandable that you become overwhelmed. Yet there is actually a healthy kind of overwhelmed and it just takes for you to know how to deal with that emotion. Learn the four subconscious steps on how to do that and you’ll see yourself come out from that storm ever more ready to brave the next.
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Have you ever been with someone where they said something that was so off the mark? It was not even close and you could not help it, but you had to laugh. Not only were you laughing, it almost feels like you’re laughing at them. Kerri and I were around someone and they were saying something like, “You guys are growing so quickly because it’s easy for you. You have a large team, heavy cash flow, and big budgets. If I had your team and your budgets, it’d be easy for me to double our business every year too.” Kerri and I collectively looked at each other. I started cracking up because this person was showing how naive they are about how business works.Just because we run significant volume does not mean that things are just peachy and easy. Click To Tweet
My counsel to this young lady was, “I need you to understand something. Just because we run a significant volume doesn’t mean that things are peachy keen and easy.” We started to explain a little bit about our background and history, what we did in our twenties, 30s, and early 40s. She goes, “It sounds like you are in a constant state of being overwhelmed.” We looked at each other, “That’s about right.” Kerri and I have four kids. We have one kid in college and another one about to go to college. There are so many moving parts in our life plus 100 different people in the business. We are in a constant state of overwhelm. It’s a healthy overwhelmed. You could even say it’s a requested overwhelmed. We definitely put ourselves in this position. We wouldn’t change anything for the world. The real question is, “How do we deal with being overwhelmed all the time?” There is definitely a solution.
Personally, I handle it much different than Kerri. I use a three to four-part subconscious system. Here’s the bottom line. If you’re in business, if you’re in sales, if you’re the head of your household, if you’re the head of your division, if you lead anybody, which obviously, you’re leading yourself, you better write this down. In life, I’m either going to be in a storm or I’m going to be coming out of a storm or I’m about to go into a storm. You’re either in one, you’re coming out of one, or you’re about to go in one. Right now, if everything’s great, just get ready, you’re probably about to go into a storm in life. This is about what do you do when you are in a storm? What do you do when you are in the thick of it, you’re suffocating, you can’t breathe, you can’t see the light, and you don’t have a clue how you’re going to make it to tomorrow?
I get overtaken by these types of feelings probably five to eight times a year, where I have bitten off more than I can chew. I literally pray more than I normally pray. I think more than I normally think and I think a lot. What do I do though exactly? I do have a formula. Number one, I slow everything down. There are many of you that know what I’m about to say to be the absolute dead truth. I slow everything down. I go days, if not over a week, where I turn off Skype, Slack, email, and my cell phone. In the last twelve months, I’ve gone seven days and ten days with no phone, email, computer, nothing. Why? I was overwhelmed.
Number two, list your assets. I’m not talking about the cash in your bank. What are your assets? Let’s pretend a third of our audience are overwhelmed right now. What are your assets? Cash in the bank. Number two, you’re above dirt, that’s an asset. Number three, you have friends, some even like you. Number four, you have a business or a product that could be sold. Number five, you have people that care about you. Number six, you have IP; intellectual property. You know how to do things. You make a list that doesn’t stop until you have twenty to 30 things of all the assets in your life. These are assets.
Number three, list the positives in your life. Maybe two years ago, one of the products in your business had a great sales month. Maybe you can resurrect that. What were the positives in there? Maybe you have a great uncle who’s ultra-wealthy. That could be a positive. I don’t know. It’s a brainstorming session. List every potential positive thing in your life in personal and business.
Step one, slow everything way down. As the famous Ed Bogle says, “If you want to go fast, go slow.” Step two, list every asset you got. Number three, list all the positives. A lot of time, assets will expose positives and a lot of times, positives will expose assets. Number four, and the best part, list some leverage. Leverage by definition says you apply your greatest strength against the enemy or the obstacles’ largest and most obvious weakness. In the marketplace, maybe you have a great sales team. Maybe you leveraged that sales team against some prospects with a new product or service. Maybe you’re sitting on a ton of cash and you could leverage that with the radio or TV. Maybe your product is stinking superior to anything in the marketplace, you can leverage that and find a way to get into the news media or this or that.
You may not be overwhelmed now, but you’re going to be overwhelmed at some point soon. What are you going to do? You can do anything you want. What Ken does is he slows everything way down to a screeching halt. You need to physically be able to hear your hair grow. That’s how slow you get your mind and your body. Number two, once you’re sitting in a still position, you get out a piece of paper because your computer is shut down, so you don’t hear Skype or email. You get out a piece of paper and you write down all of your assets in ink or pencil.You may not be overwhelmed today but you’re going to be overwhelmed at some point soon. Click To Tweet
Number three, on paper with ink or lead, you list all the positives you get cooking in your life. Number four, you spend these assets on these positives. You find a way to apply your greatest leverage against your current challenges’ greatest weakness. If you do it right, you will always find in the darkest hour, you have leverage. You will always find the obstacle does have a weak point and you use mechanical advantage. You get the longest lever you can, you use that pry bar, and you start budging that current challenge in your life or that obstacle. I hope this helps. Take care.